My best pal, Todd and I have been best friends since ninth grade. I’ve always thought he was very extremely fine, but during our high school years, I was more comfortable with the BFF vibe. Once we graduated from high school, we split up and went to colleges in different states. After college though, we both returned to our home town of Chicago, Illinois, and that’s when I realized there could be more than a platonic relationship between us.
At first, things were complicated, because neither one of us wanted to lose our perfect friendship. But after a couple of months, we began to get more interested. And luckily, it worked. For people in similar situations, and who want to break the friend bond, I have these suggestions. First, talk out your feelings honestly. Look for signals that he wants to get closer, such as lowering his voice tone, standing closer and/or more touching. Notice if the vibe between you gets awkward or not. If it is tense– back off and accept your status as “just friends.” As far as Todd and me, the transition was almost seamless. We started going to places more often without our other friends. Movies, Dinner, Parks. You know places, where we could talk openly and explore our thoughts and feelings.
Also, it really helped that we had so much in common. Since we’d been friends for so long, we shared similar interests. For instance, both of us played keyboard. It was great reminiscing about our efforts to start a high school band, and now, we’ve got plans in the works. Todd is thinking about starting a new ensemble. It might work this time. Another plus- my being a long-time friend meant I was already well aware of his family, friends, job, and his aspirations.
It didn’t take long before we were officially dating. So, I say to girls and young ladies who have handsome buddies. Take the time to know your pal, be there for each other, and who knows what could happen. Don’t be surprised if years later, your heart does double-time when he comes calling.
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